Thursday seems like a great day to take over the world; get it! Today the main man talks about ‘rewarding your inner child.’ Inside of us, there are three distinct and totally separate ego traits, which make up our personality. They are as follows:
- A parent ego
- An adult ego
- A child ego
Firstly, your parent type ego tells you to tie your shoes, brush your teeth, eat your vegetables, and do your homework. It has two sides to it. The negative side is your inner critic—the part that judges you when you don’t perform. The positive side is the nurturing part of yourself—that makes sure you are protected, taken care of and provided for. The positive side is also the part that validates, appreciates, and acknowledges you for doing a good job.
Secondly, your adult type ego trait is the rational part of yourself. It gathers data and makes logical decisions. It plans your schedule, balances your checkbook, and determines when to rotate your tires.
Thirdly, your child type ego does what all children do. It whines, begs for attention, craves hugs, and it pouts when its needs are not met. As we go through life, it is almost as if we have a 3-year-old holding onto us, asking “why aren’t we having more fun?”
Now that we have classified each of these egos, we will take a deeper look into the principle ‘rewarding your inner child.’ As a parent to this inner child, it is so important that you reward yourself for behaving while you get your work done. In other words, it is important that you reward yourself for accomplishing hard things. At some point your inner child needs to know that it will get to read a novel, go to a movie, hang out with a friend, listen to music, go dancing, let loose, eat out, get a new toy, and take a vacation.
A big part of creating more success in your life is rewarding yourself when you succeed. In reality, rewarding yourself for successes you have, keeps your inner child happy and compliant the next time it must behave and work hard. Your inner child has to be able to trust that you will deliver on your promises for each success. If you don’t deliver on these promises, it will literally sabotage your efforts like a little child. This can be done by doing things such as getting sick or making mistakes, things which force you to take time off, and it will take you farther away from the success you want to create.
I am a true believer in the balance of life. Without it, you will most definitely be unhappy. If all you do is work, you will not have long term happiness.
You have to have a balance, which I have talked about before. Having constant doses of work, family life, fun, physical fitness, education, and spiritual growth are vital for all around happiness. In other words, have some fun! If you are not enjoying the hell out of the life, then you are doing something wrong. Enjoying life comes from challenging yourself, overcoming obstacles, breaking through limiting beliefs, pushing your body and mind to limits you never thought possible. By far most importantly, doing it with the ones you love!
Enjoying the good life, Cram